I wish I was thin enough to dress like Joan, she’s my hero.
Joan isn’t “thin”! She is gorgeous and has curves…you have an adorable figure and could easily pull off any retro style dress.
Good point…but I would like my stomach area to be a bit smaller before I try to pull off any form fitting anything. But I would totally rock that black dress, and the gray one.
true story, Christina Hendricks was dropped by her agent because she wasn’t losing enough weight. he said she couldn’t get work because she was fat, she said she was comfortable with her body and disagreed. her next agent didn’t want her to take Mad Men and dropped her too, he didn’t think it was going anyway.
point being, rock whatever it is you want despite what you think you could pull off.
another thing, I’m pretty sure (from pictures) that I’m the size of like two of you. and if I could find them in my size, I would wear those dresses. form-fitting be damned, I only get to live once, I’ll live with what I’ve got at whatever stage of health or body I’ve got it.
I highly doubt that you’re the size of two of me! But you’re awesome and I love that you have such a positive self image, I wish I could even pretend to have as good of a self image as you have.
the thing is, I completely don’t have a good self image. there are too many days where I hate my body (both for dealing with symptoms of a disease I have little control over) and for being fat. I am conscious of my size everyday and everywhere I go, as are other people. acceptance is a process. it’s making choices that are scary and difficult and sometimes don’t feel successful. I have a decent attitude. I try to do things I want to do, because waiting until I feel like my body is ready or nice-looking enough is no way to live. I had to accept at some point that I might have my body be fatter than I would like for most of my life. So I think about health and strength in different terms now. And try to wear clothes that I like when I can find them.
I really love that. I am trying to be more accepting of my body, but at the same time I am constantly watching what I eat, trying to exercise when I can (even though with my increase in a social life this is becoming more and more difficult), and am still generally ashamed of how big my stomach/thighs are. I think I need to take a page from the book of Bonnie and just live my life.
Also, as I’m trying to be more accepting, I enjoy being active and exercise more. I don’t avoid going hiking or dancing or swimming because I’m self-conscious or feel too fat. I’m able to do yoga now without thinking the entire time “ugh, I would be able to do this better if I wasn’t so fucking fat.” (Better isn’t the point of yoga!) It’s not easy to not feel/think this way. The thoughts still creep up on me. But I want to be a person who hikes because I enjoy hiking. Not thinking the entire time “how many calories am I burning, I should be going faster or doing more”.
I’m also fairly conscious of what I eat because I have severe blood sugar problems and feel sick if I don’t. But I started dieting obsessively at 10 years old. (my mother actually put me on my first diet at 8… I look at pictures of me at that age now and see her insanity to have done that.) I will never go on another diet again EVER. Constant diets are not a lifestyle choice I’m ok with.
All these things can be about life and balance and enjoying the moment instead of about trying desperately not to be fat. (or really “look fat” since it’s such an arbitrary body-image roulette for most people about looks). I spent over 15 years of my life doing everything, facing everyday just hating being fat and trying to get to a someday where I wasn’t fat. I just can’t do that anymore. It’s oppressive and mean and spirit-breaking. I have to try to be kinder to myself, ya know? What else is there?